What is the “husb and of one wife” qualification for pastors / elders / deacons (1 Timothy 3:2, 12; Titus 1:6)?

The “husb and of one wife” qualification means an elder or deacon must be a one-woman man, known for faithfulness and commitment in marriage. The “husb and of one wife” qualification applies whether a man is single or married, ensuring he is above reproach in his relationships.

what does the bible say?

The “husb and of one wife” qualification for pastors, elders, and deacons means that a man must be a “one-woman man,” known for faithfulness and commitment in his relationships. This requirement does not specifically forbid divorce nor require that an elder be married, but it emphasizes a reputation of moral integrity and marital fidelity. The New Testament establishes the requirement of the “husb and of one wife” as part of being “above reproach,” a key overarching trait for church leaders. Greek wording in 1 Timothy 3:2 and Titus 1:6 clarifies that the phrase simply denotes a man devoted to one woman. The qualification ensures that church leaders, whether single or married, exhibit relational integrity and are above reproach, safeguarding their example and leadership within the congregation.

from the old testament

The “husb and of one wife” qualification for pastors, elders, and deacons is not found in the Old Testament.

from the new testament

Much controversy has surrounded the elder qualification translated as “husb and of one wife” in 1 Timothy 3:2. Some have understood this passage as referring to a husb and of only one wife (speaking against polygamy). Others have understood the passage as meaning a man must be married to be an elder. Still others have understood the passage as meaning an elder cannot be divorced. Many other variations have been suggested as well.
A look at the Greek words used here shows that the phrase simply means a “one-woman man” or “man of one woman” (the same phrase found in Titus 1:6). This does not specifically refer to divorce. Instead, it refers to a man who is known for being committed to one woman.
Some have pointed out that the first elder qualification of being “above reproach” (1 Timothy 3:2) serves as an overarching qualification for all of the following traits. As such, being above reproach in one’s marital situation is also a consideration for an elder. If a person’s marriage or divorce keeps a person from being above reproach, he would not qualify as an elder. This would also certainly include situations in which a married or single man has been involved in any recent adultery or sexual immorality that would keep him from being known as a one-woman man.
This understanding would also apply to deacons. The same teaching regarding a “one-woman man” is found in 1 Timothy 3:12, as are many of the other qualifications mentioned regarding elders/pastors in 1 Timothy 3:1–7.

implications for today

Historical and practical considerations can rule out some options. First, polygamy was already illegal in the Roman Empire. Since Paul was writing to Timothy in Ephesus, it is unlikely polygamy was his intended meaning. Further, Timothy was single at the time of this writing, as was the apostle Paul. If Paul meant an elder must be married, then even Paul and Timothy would have been unqualified to serve as elders. This seems highly unlikely as well. Since the phrase used simply means a “one-woman man” or “man of one woman” (the same phrase found in Titus 1:6), it is clear that it does not specifically refer to divorce. Rather, it refers to a man who is known for being committed to one woman. Why is this distinction important? A man may have been divorced before becoming a Christian or many years in the past. However, if he has been remarried for several years and is now known as a one-woman man, he could still meet this qualification. This could also apply to a single man, such as Timothy or Paul, known for his purity though unmarried. In other words, being a one-woman man would not require being married, but anyone married would be required to be known as a one-woman man. In summary, an elder must be above reproach, including in his marital status. An elder can be single or married, but he must be known as a man committed to one woman. Any other situation would disqualify a man from leadership as an elder (or deacon) in the local church.

Recap

understand

A “husb and of one wife” means a man is faithful and committed, a “one-woman man.”
The “husb and of one wife” requirement applies to both single and married men.
The “husb and of one wife” requirement doesn’t forbid divorce or require marriage, but misconduct can disqualify a leader.

reflect

How do you underst and the implications to a man’s character with the qualification of a pastor, elder, or deacon being the husb and of one wife?
How does your life demonstrate faithfulness, even if you are single or unmarried?
How could you grow in being “above reproach” in your personal and relational conduct to honor God?

engage

How do we define what it means to be a “one-woman man”?
Why is it an important requirement that pastors, elders, and deacons are the husb and of one wife?
How does understanding the “husb and of one wife” qualification deepen our view of godly leadership and the character required for elders and deacons?